Sunday, November 05, 2017

its the most wonderful time of the year


it is the most wonderful time of the year, for some that is, basketball season, more specifically, high school and kids basketball season.  in my house, it is basketball season all year around, but this time a year is when all the work all year around hopefully pays off.
let me disclaim here, my kids choose to play basketball, they have fun doing it, they want to. some are more in love with the sport than their siblings, but they still all choose basketball as their physical activity.  I am a big fan of the team comrade it gives them, learning from different coaches, playing with different groups, making new friends not just those they go to school with.  basketball has provided so many benefits for them , that is my disclaimer.

basketball try out season has not always been the best time of year for me, hence the reason why I say it is the most wonderful time of the year, for some.  I have been on both sides of the basketball try outs.  I have one kid that excels, loves it, always gets picked for the team and I have another kid that kind of cares, could take it or leave it but wants to make the team if asked.  I have been told by college coaches how amazing my kid is and I have been told by college coaches my kid has zero potential, so literally I have been on every side of the try out gauntlet. 

while this year so far my girls have made the team, I have sat waiting, hitting refresh on the website that publishes the roster to see the results. I know that heartache that comes with hearing your kid just isn't there yet or so many that tried out, scanning the list over and over hoping you missed a name.  I have cried countless tears, I just wanted that team setting, be a part of the team opportunity for my kid but was told they were not good enough.  I am a mom, I want what is best for them  I know the sadness of my kid being cut and younger kids making the team, I know the sadness of my kid being the younger kid that has made the older team, there is sadness that comes with that too.  my kid has been told why they shouldn't be on a team by parents who are upset their kid didn't make it and I have had my kid congratulated for it. so I get it, I understand it.


while I am super proud of my girl who works so hard at the sport she loves, I prepare her for the adversity that comes along with it.  at the same time I prep myself, that maybe this year is not the year a coach is going to see the potential in my son. I mean, clearly, I know he is going to be a 6'8", left handed stud, but not everyone can see that potential. :)

but what it comes down to, really, is my kids have 2 legs that allow them to run up and down the court, strong lungs that keep them breathing through the drills, arms to shoot and hands to catch (maybe to catch) and the ability to take criticism and accept feedback. when they make the team and when they don't, I still have the gift of being their mom and picking them up if they are down and celebrating with them. 

basketball may make up 12 months of the year in my house, and people think I am nuts for what we put into it, but it is so much more than basketball, just as the hash tag says.  basketball has given us some of the best memories as a family, the most amounts of joy and sadness, the most amount of together time, the most amounts of 1:1 time, the most fights in the driveway, the most fights in the bleachers but way more fun and laughter that out weighs the bad.

I'm looking forward to another successful, good and bad season ahead of us.

Thursday, August 31, 2017

Take good care of them

we are a full week back to school now, they even have already had their first day off!  im that mom who is sad when summer is winding down, for lots of reasons, but this summer i just didnt want it to end.

i like having them home
i like the later nights outside
i like snuggling in bed with them late at night
i like movie nights
i love not making lunches


but most of all, i love that i have always had one of my kiddos in the car with me going to work each morning.  this summer, that all changed.

now they all get on a bus, the oldest one gets in a CAR, not driven by me!! my youngest little bucket o sunshine is now gone all day in kindergarten. it broke.my.heart.  
                                                              

she oh so confidently got on that bus, not a care or worry.  not a single butterfly in her belly.  it helps we have the best bus driver on the planet.  seriously, miss tracy had a heart attack the week before school started, but still rode the bus the first week so the kids would know she would be there, she couldn't miss the first day! she truly loves the kids, hugs them each morning and cries the last day of school. 

        

now, i know, i know, she is more than ready, she needed the structure, she wants to learn, she is outgoing, helpful, kind and absolutely ready for kindergarten.

the teachers are amazing, kind and patient.  the staff just awesome.  but it is just something about the fact she is not just a building over, that peace of having her right there near me all day.

i always say, change is hard, i know this!  change is good!  she was ready for the change and has embraced and jumped right in with the change to kindergarten.  away from the comfort of teachers whom have been with her nearly her whole life, who know her quirks and triggers, but i also know her new teachers will do the same and they all have the most exciting times ahead.

i will always miss the days of them being home with me though.

so take good care of my kiddos, of city schools.  keep my kindergartner loving school, carefree and outgoing.  keep my 4th grader sassy, smart and silly, keep my boy engaged and carefree and keep my first born smart, level headed and strong.  you have them for the larger part of their day and i will do my work evenings and weekends.

in less than 180 school days i will be back on break from lunch packing!

Sunday, May 21, 2017

unfollow - social media affect

ugh...why does this hurt so much.. not just the unfollow itself, but when others tell you they have unfollowed.



for example...   i followed someone on social for awhile, i liked her posts, her content interested me, she sparked joy.  what started as me reading each post, over time moved to me reading about half the post, then skimming through the post, read maybe half the post to eventually just scrolling by.  then one friday, (yes, i do remember it was a friday, more to come on that.)  i just felt i had to unfollow.  so i did.  later that day i was chatting with my work bff and told her:
'i had to unfollow xxx.'
now my super compassionate, feeler work bff just said:
'oh'
and shrugged it off.  i apologized to her, as she is a huge fan of xxx and she proceeded to tell me in her always so wise way:
'you don't have to apologize to me.  people bring different perspectives into your life at different times.'
my work bff is super, super wise, inspiring and smart.  we then parted ways, as it was friday (see...there was a reason i remembered it was a friday).

i then moved through my weekend, but this conversation with my work bff kept popping into my head.  it was one of those things i couldn't shake and i was feeling bad.

maybe i was too harsh
i shouldn't have even told her
why do i always say so much
learn to just shut up

i was feeling bad.  i almost texted my pal, but decided to wait to talk to her first thing monday morning.

monday morning came, i marched directly into her office, gave her a hug and told her i was sorry.
'good morning, why are you sorry?'  my ever so compassionate work bff says.
'i was harsh, i should have never just blurted out i had to unfollow xxx.'
she proceeded to tell me i was (still am) crazy.

a few weeks later i am teaching my insanity class.  my friend tells me:
'sorry liz, but i had to unfollow xxx, i was so sick and tired of him taking selfies in his underwear.'

'oh' my reply.
but i gotta say, it kind of stung a little bit.  i almost felt like she was telling me she unfollowed me and my feeling was a little hurt.  my first reaction was to respond, defensively.   my head instantly went back to my conversation with my work bff, this is how she felt!
so i replied with:
'you don't have to apologize to me.  people bring different perspectives into your life at different times.'
the wise words of my dear friend came right out.

whats my point?
there are 2:
  • surround yourself with good people.  just like you are always told.  good brings good, kindness brings kindness.  keep that good karma all around you, all of the freaking time.  keep those good people around you all the freaking time, it matters. 
  • don't let social media affect you like that.  as with anything, interests change.  something may not appeal to you any longer, people evolve and change and people and content are brought into your life to move you through that period.      

i had that app on my phone that would tell me who starting following me, who unfollowed me.  needless to say, but that app is gone...unfollow.


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